Posts Tagged ‘lessons’

Saturday July 31st 2010

Posted: July 31, 2010 by Marya in Quote of the day
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Believes the past is where you have had to be to become the person you are today. What you learn today, makes you the person you become in the future.

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I believe that the sun shines after the rain
I believe if you don’t get hurt you’ll never gain
I believe in not doing things the easy way
I believe that being selfish doesn’t pay

I believe in a second chance
I believe in a life long romance
I believe there is life after death
And standing up to a life of mess

I believe in love at first sight
I believe that revenge isn’t right
I believe that first impressions last
And there is nothing better then a good laugh

I believe that dreams do come true, I believe there’s destiny for me and you,
I believe something good comes from something bad I believe everyone has one true love
I believe there’s destiny for me and you
I believe that good things come to those who wait
I believe love never arrives too late

I believe something good comes from something bad
I believe that for tears of happiness there are tears of sad
I believe everyone has a guardian angel
And the good you do will be rewarded well

I believe sometimes there is no explanation
I believe money can’t buy people’s affection
I believe you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone
I believe a new day arrives with every dawn

I believe a smile can be contagious
I believe in being very outrageous
I believe in living with no regrets
I believe that life is as good as it gets

I believe that God watches over us
I believe the little things are worth the fuss
I believe you have each friend for a reason
I believe you will get punished for treason

I believe that what comes first is family
I believe we should all live in harmony
I believe in making the most of a beautiful day
And it’s not the end until everything’s okay

I believe absence makes the heart grow fonder
I believe you will lose if you sit and wonder
I believe every experience teaches you a lesson
And nothing cures better then a drinking session

I believe everyone has one true love
I believe sometimes we need a little shove
I believe the whole world is a stage
I believe we only get better with age

I believe that to learn you have to live
I believe that to love someone you have to give
I believe one moment can change your life
And there’s still help when you’re in strife

I believe everyone has one true friend
I believe love helps a broken heart mend
I believe in the power of a song
And things will change before too long

I believe living is the best experience
I believe in not laughing at other people’s expense
I believe it’s hard to watch a lover leave
And when they’re gone all you can do is breath

I believe to always look on the bright side
I believe that life is just one big ride
I believe when I die people will grieve
But it’s ok because I believe

The hardest part of any friendship is when it’s time to say goodbye. As much as we might like things to stay the same, change is an inevitable part of life. The universe may seem huge and the rift between friends on opposite side of the world may seem a great distance. There are many tools available with which we can communicate, but even without these tools there is a secret that only real friends know, and it is this. All the mountains and valleys in the world cannot separate friends whose hearts are as one.

I’ll Meet You There

We all go through life with the love of friends and family
Even though we know they will all leave us eventually
Never knowing where the future might lead you
No worries though, there is a future for them too
Because even if there not in front of you they will always be in your heart
Nobody or nothing could tear a love like that apart
With that being said my friend you will always be with me
And when my time has come I will meet you there you will see
I know you are looking down on me now and then
Up in a place we like to call heaven
Make sure there is room for me when I get there
Just so that I know that you still care
I don’t know how long it will be before it is my time
So I’m letting you know with this little rhyme
That I will always be here no matter where you are
You wont even have to reach out to me because I will never be that far
Don’t ever fear because my love will forever send
And I will be by your side when my life comes to an end.

In a world wherein we so often make comments like “He made me angry,” or “I can’t help it,” or “She makes me feel so ugly,” it’s easy to forget that the responsibility for our feelings lies within us.

No one – and no thing – can make you feel a certain way without your permission. Of course, many of us grant that permission unconsciously, as we’ve been conditioned to believe that outside forces control our emotions.

Today, I’m reminding myself that I am in charge of my feelings. I control my thoughts, and my feelings flow from my thoughts. A feeling is a reaction to a thought – and thus, feelings can be controlled by manipulating the thoughts that precede them.

This world can be a heaven or a hell. When I think differently, I’m always amazed at the changes that I see in the world – and in my life. Thinking differently means cultivating motivating from within, not needing approval from others, practicing self acceptance, embracing the unknown, eliminating blame, not worrying, living spontaneously, giving and receiving love, and so forth.

Thinking differently means looking at people, circumstances and situations in a new light. There are a million examples. In the comments below, share a new perspective on something in your life. I’ll kick things off with the first comment.

At its mildest, a stalker is simply a troll that has attached itself to an individual. At worst, boring, at best, flattering. Find out about trolls. But a stalker can be a serious predator, using the Internet to pursue a real or imagined vendetta, or other perverted agenda. Risk assessment is an essential first step.

How dangerous is it?
Start by thinking about who it is; is it someone you have simply upset on the Internet, someone with whom you’ve had a relationship? Is it someone you knew before, or have met in the real world?

Think about where you see it – newsgroups? forums? chat rooms? email?

What does it say? Is it a matter of direct insults? Is it lies and rumors? Does it reveal information not generally known that you want kept secret?

When – and how often – does it appear?

How is it threatening? Is it simply annoying, or do you fear direct contact, betrayal or what? Think about the worst it can do … how bad is that?

Why are you being stalked – is it simply spite and boredom, is it envy or resentment? Have you done anything that you think may have set it off?

Once you can answer these questions, you will have a clearer idea of what you are dealing with, and how quickly you may need to act.

What To Do – General Advice
In virtually every case, the first line of defence is to do nothing; simply treat it as a troll and ignore it – most will go away fairly quickly. remember, these creatures are a form of troll; if they fail to get rapid feedback, their inclination is to move on- they usually have neither the stamina nor the intelligence for a difficult situation.
But – however mild this stalker appears – always save every message you receive. A good way to do this is to create a new folder in your mailbox, and move all mails or copy newsgroup postings to that folder. I’d advise keeping this folder for at least a year after the last post, possibly longer. This can be a useful store of evidence, if later required, and can help in identifying the stalker.
Consider your options. Retaliation will make you feel better, but can be risky; as it make inspire, provoke or enable the stalker to strike further. For example, using the stalker’s guestbook to warn them is risky if you have a guestbook that is open to attack. But if it is reasonably safe, then attack – let the stalker know that you are not afraid of electrons!
By definition, a stalker is a coward, like all bullies, like all who attack from behind, or in the dark. Be sure to mention this in every attack.
Stalkers make it personal – You make it impersonal. Minimise any private response you make; maximise every public response.
Not invariably, but usually, stalkers are none too bright; as JR would say, “The Elevator Don’t Reach the Top Floor” – few intelligent people would go down the road to stalksville. Some, of course, are severely mentally ill. If you suspect that, then do not engage the stalker in any kind of dialog – just keep careful records and make appropriate reports.
Be Reasonable – Your attacks should be in response to the stalker’s – and their first line of defense will be to accuse you of stalking – so don’t go over the top. You’ll usually be amazed how easy it is to attack a stalker, but exercise restraint. If they write in your forum, and it’s safe to respond – then write in theirs. But be honest, brief and to the point – even if you post in every thread.
Keep records of all that you do, as well as what they do – and consider writing a web diary, or opening a web page to expose them. They may well have a reputation to lose – if they deserve to lose it, help them to lose it (example – The Zeppo).
Share The Laughter – However unnerving a stalker may be, if you look at them coldly in the light of day, they are pretty ridiculous. Some are Nothing But Ridiculous (example – Spiro). Savour that; turn it around, let them – and the world – see how ridiculous they are. Every time you mock them, you gain, and they lose. Share The Laughter.
Be consistent – once you have identified their weaknesses (besides being a loopy, cowardly piece of slime!), use the information against them, in every response.

Official Warning
The information is offered in good faith to people who have had, or are having, problems with an Internet stalker. But much of the information is untested, based on personal experience, theory and best guess – it is not guaranteed to help, and may not be appropriate to your own situation. The intention is to help you think about the issues, and then you must decide how – if at all – you can use the advice given here. Whatever choices you make, we wish you Good Luck.
Never give out your real name
Purposefully most chat and message systems encourage you to use a user name, not your real name. This is to protect you. If you want to use a name, use your first name, never your family name. If anyone asks you your real name, do not give it to him or her; think about why they want your name. Is it relevant? Why do they want it?

Never give out your address or town
It is much better to say you live in East Midlands, than say you live in Nottingham, or even better – specify your location as the country you live in. Again ask yourself why someone would want your address. If they ask you, stop, and ask the questions: am I comfortable about a stranger knowing my address? Why do they want to know it?

Never give out your phone number
Again – why would anyone want it? Your phone number is like an address. The dialling code specifies your district to quite a small area. Mobile phones however are not regional specific, and present a lesser risk. However if anyone asks you your phone number, do not give it to him or her. Again ask yourself the question: why are they asking me for it? If someone gives you his or her phone number do not dial it. If you really decide that is what you want to do, withhold your number form them.

Monday July 12th 2010

Posted: July 12, 2010 by Marya in Quote of the day
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The only life lesson you need to learn: Take risks. Everything will fall into place afterwards.

Wednsday June 16th, 2010

Posted: June 16, 2010 by Marya in Quote of the day
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Do not live your life with shame, guilt, or regret. Learn, grow, and move on.